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Fantastic website. Thank you. I was Googling chastity and yours was at the top of the list. Well done. Keep it up and I will pass it on to our Catholic Family Group and our teachers.

The story of Tobit changed my life. I stood by the word of God that, if I put Him before lust in a relationship, Satan would not be able to destroy it. It worked!

I married a man that is truly blessed by God. He prays with me when we wake up in the morning, over every meal that we have together, and at night before going to sleep. We attend church together regularly and turn to God to be an active part in our lives. By putting God first in all things, our lives are blessed.

Thanks so much for this web site that I have just seen and read and also been encouraged by this kind of work that you are doing. It something that many in our world do not consider as so important for our situation as it is.

For us in Africa where AIDS is taking it's toll as a wild fire spreading without anyone to stop it, Chastity is the only way to save us. Recently our government has adopted an ABC strategy (Abstain, Be Faithful, and if you must Use a Condom) which is the nearest they have come as matter of policy.

But myself and others are involved in a campaign to say that only sure way is Chastity because abstain is rather cheap for it's just staying away. But Chastity is a virtue recogonising that our sexuality is God given and we must take it back to him so as to use it properly.

I would like to continue communicating with you so as to share with you my little experience so as also benefit Kampala Uganda on your vast knowledge.

wow i didn't think u were goin to actually write me back. cause most sites don't. anyway well since i know u, well I'll tell u. lol, me and kristen (my g/f), we have been datin for 14 months. well let me tell u how it has been, well, all together i love her and its been great except for these last couple of months. See when we first started datin, we did stuff sexually just out of curiosity.

we r still virgins but we decided to stop everything like that and make God the center point of r relationship and we did for awhile and those were the best months we had. i truly believe that. then i went on a trip with my grandparents for like a week and half well when i got back i kinda not lost my faith, but it started fadin.

i guess it took me awhile to get over that and, kristen she is a very faithful Christian, so i didn't want to tell her all that but i finally did cause it was tearing me apart. well, i got over it but i still didn't have a very strong relationship with God and that affected me and kristen. at first it was bad between us. we had some arguments but we keep tryin. i (just thought a history would be helpful.i don't know lol).

well the problem is that we have been lately doin alot of sexual stuff again and we don't even talk about God anymore. i mean we both still go to church every Sunday and Wesnesday and with me like i go to her house every Sun. after church. Last Sun. we did some things now we say it is cause its more intimate. Now when we do it but see after all of it i feel extremely bad and guilty and even before we do stuff like that i won't to be able to so now and its not her fault.

i ALWAYS start it but i give in so easy its my weakest area in my life and i been wantin to get God back in the center of r relationship and so does she but then that happens and she is gettin tired of me on Mon. sayin i think we should stop all the sexual stuff and start bein a better Christain couple cause I'll say that like every Mon. but then the Sat. or Sun. i see her i give in and the thing that hurts me the MOST is like this past Sun she said she wouldn't take back none of it and we got bad to real bad.

she even said that but i'm so scared that i have changed the sweet God loving Christian girl the one i feel in love with into somethin bad. i'm scared i have made her backslide and from here on out i want to stop all the sexual things and sinful acts and become a better Christain couple. i want that joy, peace, comfort, strength, and love that we did when God was the center piont of r relationship but now im scared to even say anything to her cause if i screw up again and do soimethin this Sat or Sun then i don't know what i'll do.

its like i try to get closer to God but its like somethin manly that that brings me down and tears me apart . any advice we be very much thankful sorry if it was to long or confusing .

I am so glad you wrote again. I apologize that I took a few days to answer you. The weekend is coming. I know that those are the most difficult days for you and your girlfriend, so I am really praying hard that you open this email today.

You don't say how old you are but I assume you are a teenager who is in love with his girlfriend and wants also to be close to God.

The scriptures call one direction "the sins of the flesh." The other direction would be to travel God's path.

So you have a choice to make each and every day Actually, you have these choices to make each and every conversation, action and decision of you day.

Your girl friend seems to be looking to you for the direction to stay pure In fact you BOTH have this responsibility but guess what? You have a great friend who will help you to do this and you have already figure out who it is. It is GOD!!!!!! Here is how it works. You must pray each and every day. Pray with your girlfriend. Ask God to be a part of your relationship. Ask Him to send His Holy Spirit to bless, guide, strengthen and guide you.

Your relationship with God will be the key. Since you know that you in the past are doing impure things on Sunday afternoons when you visit your girlfriend at her house, then STOP visiting her at her house. Go OUT AND DO SOMETHING TOGETHER. Maybe you can help out homeless people in your community. Maybe your church has a volunteer project or idea where you can get involved and not only keep your mind on things other then your physical attraction for each other but you will actually be helping people in need.

YOU MUST HAVE A PLAN OR YOUR PROBLEM WILL NOT STOP. Maybe you can start by reading this email together and getting new ideas on how to turn again to God and ask for His strength to have a pure relationship.

Ask God in your prayers to guide you. Another important thing is to pray with your girlfriend. God will bless you and her each and every time you do so. You can simply pray the Our Father together and then simply ask God to help you both to stay pure every time you are together. Even saying a brief prayer together each and everytime you are sharing a meal to bless your food is a very good idea.

Do you have a youth group leader that you can speak to? You obviously are involved in your church. Maybe if you speak to your youth group leader to say that you want to get involved in more activities he or she can help? I don't know how close you are to that person but maybe you can as them for the same type of advice about how to deal with temptation as you are asking me. Maybe an outside speaker can be brought into the church? This is an important topic for all young people at your church. Maybe you can even start a Purity or Abstinence Club in your church? You sound like you have many fine qualities and you might even think of being the leader and founder of such a group of youth in your church. If your youth group leader goes on our website http://www.chastitycall.com/, they will find a free curriculum that they can use to help you start up such a club.

I hope that you might inspired by some of these ideas. If you can, please check out http://www.chastitycall.org/bible-more.html tofind some critical pages on our web page for bible quotes for you to think about and pray over with your girlfriend.

We have something called a Chastity Kit. I'd really like to send you two. Of course you'd have to send me your address for me to send you these kits. One for your girlfriend and one for you.

You both also might want to think about when you are really taking a Chastity Pledge. I can send you one. Also you and your girlfriend might want to think about wearing a Chastity ring. Visit http://www.chastitycall.org/ring.html to read letters and learn better idea about the rings. They are a visible reminder that you are saving yourselves for marriage and trying to live a pure lifesytle.

Please write me back, especially about the chastity kit and remember it is NEVER too late to turn back to God and His Love and Guidance.

I was looking for some information and opinions on the subject when I ran across your address. I know premarital sex is wrong and I would never go that far, but what about kissing? Is that too far? Besides what is the point in kissing? I know it is supposed to be a show of affection, but wouldn't that be taking the easy way out?

"The Lord knows how to rescue the godly from temptation, and to keep the unrighteous under punishment for the day of judgment, and especially those who indulge the flesh in its corrupt desires and despise authority. Daring self willed, they do not tremble when they revile angelic majesties."
2 Peter 2: 9 - 10

The question is how to interpret scriptures? Really prayer and asking God's Holy Spirit to guide you can help. Can you think of any place in scriptures where the word "kiss" appears? Do you remember that Judas betrayed Jesus with a kiss? Yes......you are correct......A kiss can be a sign of affection. But Judas thought he would deceive Jesus and so Judas used a kiss to identify the Christ to the authorities to be arrested. How sad !!! Can you imagine the pain in the Heart of Jesus when He saw that his close friend of three years was using a kiss to betray Him to be arrested?

I think the point is lust. Why not look up the word Lust in the dictionary? Try it and see what you learn.

You see sex is a powerful drive within people. So if you are to become interested and romantically involved........ it could lead to LUST-ful desires and then what????? Will you be able to resist the temptation?

Being tempted is not a sin. If you are tempted and then respond with self control, you have not done wrong in the Eyes of God.

You see He is the key...... whether it is kissing or other things we might do or say. We need God's Holy Spirit to guide us through what we need to learn in this life. Life is very complicated. But God is All-Knowing and All-Wise and All-Good. He is always available to help us through the complicated situations we face in our lives. All we have to do is ask Him to help us. Then listen in our hearts to Inspiration of His Holy Spirit.

You have free will and a choice on how you want to live your life. That you are asking a question about kissing means you are curious and this is good. Bring your questions in prayer to God. He will help you and inspire you. But it is important that you study the Scriptures because they are the key to understanding how God thinks and speaks. This is important because Satan and his demons will try anything they can to tempt us to do the wrong thing in God's Eyes. By studying the scriptures you will learn to better recognize God's Inspiration and Voice in your daily challenges.

I'm sorry that this is such a long answer to such a short question. I hope in some way it helps. To be honest you are the first person to ask about kissing. I will pray for you and suggest that you make it a habit of praying with the one you might want to kiss FIRST !!! Why not take her to church or a youth group meeting...... and think about praying together even if its a simple prayer like Grace before meals? And most certainly pray before any serious decisions are made by you and the person you are dating.

Together ask God to be an active part of your relationship. He will if you ask it of Him. God will guide you. He loves both of you and wants to be an active part of your lives.

Invite Him in....... ask Him to be with you every hour of the day and you will never be disappointed.

I would really appreciate hearing what you think of these ideas. Thank you for writing to me. I sincerely hope you write back.

Hi, I just wanted to say I checked out those web sites you gave me and even though most of it I knew- I am adamently against abortion and having been studying it within my church so I can educate people who might not know that an unborn child is a person. Anyway, it was educational- thank you for giving me the web sites. I reall liked the poem written by Maria. It is so true. I will never be ashamed to be a virgin. Thank you again.

Have you any idea, how much you are doing to change the lives of so many? It just boggles my mind to think of all that you are doing. I noticed that you took the recommendation to put address to send donations to, I will use it as soon as Jenn and I can, you have touched my life with your love and concern for the ones that so many has forgotten. I like your new website, and it blessed my heart to think how that most of these girls come in feeling used and abused, and even being treated as trash in many cases and then you show them the great love that God has for them. They are all so precious, and I love each and everyone of them, but God loved each and everyone of them enough to send His dear Son. Kathy, I know that you are working so hard and I wish there was a way that I could help more, but I continue to pray for you and will help all that I can financially as able. We love you and if we ever can do more from OK let us know, I hope one of these days that I will be writing you and saying that God is opening a door for us to have a shelter and need to know how to get started. If you hear of any that need a friend in the OKC area through your web pages let Jenn and I know.